Monday, November 9, 2009

rough but real times

This past month has been a very trying time for our family in various areas. And it seems like things aren't going to be getting better anytime in the near future. Recently a certain friend posted something that I honestly laughed out loud at. Mainly because a lot of times I feel the same way. She stated "Reading other people's cute blogs makes me want to throw up a little." Blogs are a funny thing to me. People always appear to have the most happy and perfect life on their blogs. I guess they could argue that they are turning their blogs into books...but I would think that they would want to remember the good along with the bad. The times in my life when I have grown the most were during the tough times. Many of the blogs I read seem to be picture perfect! They have the perfect little family, and being a mommy is the "absolute best", and their kids are so perfect and get along perfectly together! Now, I'm not trying to offend anyone, my purpose in venting is that I want to try and make our blog more "real". I have been guilty at times of making our life seem picture perfect. But I will tell you right now that my life is not perfect. My marriage isn't perfect, our family isn't perfect, and my kids aren't perfect. I consider us to be a very normal family.

I will admit, being a mom isn't always the best. Just last week I had a doctor's appointment and my doctor asked if I was a stay at home mom. When I answered yes, he asked how it was going. My response was "It's okay". He laughed, but I was being honest. That day it was going just okay. I told him that my answer changes from day to day along with the answer to "Are you planning on having any more kids?" I consider my job to be very challenging and difficult at times. Don't get me wrong...I do love being a mom and if it came down to it, I wouldn't change it for ANYTHING! But at times I truly struggle. What mom doesn't? There are days when I want to rip my hair out. But there are also days when I could spend all day hugging and kissing my boys because they are the cutest and most sweetest things in the whole world. Those are the days that make all the hard days SO worth it! And I have to admit...my boys are pretty cute!

During this rough time in our life, I hope to try and be more real. I want to document the good along with the bad. I want my boys to know that they were naughty at times and I hope that we can look back on them and laugh together. I also want to be more positive. If you didn't know, I can be quite negative at times but that is something I am working on to change. I want to have more faith that things will work out for the best. Deep down...I think that they will. With Thanksgiving upon us, I have so many things to be grateful for! I hope and pray that those are the things I focus on this month instead of the bad. Here's to being more real!

By the way...thanks for letting me vent!

8 comments:

Charley said...

Thank you! Seriously, I needed to hear that at this very moment! Thank you! You are awesome, and I agree, our life isn't perfect either! I need to be more real too! Here's to being real!

The Call's said...

Awesome post! I and my family are far from perfect and I think I should put that out there more. I am totally guilty of making things seem perfect. I think you are amazing though!

Annie Duckworth said...

You are not alone. There are times when I look at blogs and it will ruin my whole day. Bring on the realness!

Jodi said...

You are so cute. That is the same thing that I think. I hate to blog sometimes just because of those reasons. I am not cute or funny to blog about so I just don't. Thanks for the laugh and to know that there is someone like me.

dede said...

should I take a picture of my kitchen right now and blog about that?? (although, that might jump us out of the "keepin it real" category and put us straight into the "needs intervention" one - maybe the fact that I haven't had time to do a post for a month is keeping it real enough :) xoxo

Jonny, Jessica, Carter, and Max Arbuckle said...

Your the bomb!! And my hero... love you.

Tiff and Shay Family said...

Thanks for posting that!! It is nice to know other people feel the way I do!!! I need to be more real too!! I have never thought of it in that way, I always just thought no one wants to see my bad days too!!! So thanks for saying it!!

The Baker Family said...

My sister started my blog for me, and it was because she wanted to see what was going on in my life because we live far away from each other. I did not want to have a blog at all!! I felt like I was the busiest person around already without having to stop and blog. I didn't want that. The other reason is exactly as your friend stated, "other people's cute blogs make me want to throw up a little." I can't stand thinking that my family is having hard times and struggling while other families are perfect and have everything they could ever want and need. By not blogging, I didn't have to know what other families had compared to mine. And I don't hide the truth about what's happening in our lives, but I'm not the type to post it because I don't want the pity. I don't post those times for that reason. I remind myself that I know that others struggle just as I do and that nobody has the perfect fantasy life, it's not possible in this world, (unless you're making a movie-heehee)and those who seem so terribly fake in their blogging life, well, I tend to stop checking those particular ones out!! If I continued, I'd start leaving bad comments! It wouldn't be good....Thanks for this post! I'm glad someone else feels the same way!!